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Power of affirmations
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The Power of Affirmations

by Rockstar 2 February 2021

It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen – Muhammad Ali

When I first read about affirmations, I wasn’t sure this was something for me. Telling myself I’m the best and I’m good while I was feeling shit was not something I believed in. There was always a connecting with the law of attraction, but let me tell you, when you feel down this wasn’t the “thing” I wanted to focus and implement in my life.

While reading more and more books about positivity, the possibilities and opportunities with affirmations drew my attention again. The reason why this time it became interesting for me is that I read more about the scientifically proven evidence about “priming” yourself with confident and positive wordings. In none of these books they spoke about the law of attraction but about the positive emotions and the famous broaden and build concept from the book “Positivity”.

When reading the “Miracle Morning” from Hal Elrod I really started to implement affirmations on a daily basis and it really supported me in my own confidence and believe in my own competences.

Positive affirmations are very powerful because they release you from negativity, fear, worry, and anxiety. When these affirmations are repeated over and over again, they begin to take charge of your thoughts, slowly changing your pattern of thinking and ultimately changing your life.

For me affirmations are the way to set your “mindset” (thoughts, beliefs and focus) each and every day and boost your self-esteem.

Please watch this great video about affirmation:

How to create your own Affirmations?

On the internet you can find millions of great affirmations but it is important to define and create your own personal affirmation to make impact on your positive life.

Please find some starting points to define your own personal affirmations:

  • Define your own goal, what do you really want in your life? Your personal affirmation needs to be connected with your goal so that you can program your mind with your positive thoughts, beliefs and focus. Couple of examples are; financial freedom, health, emotions, relations etc.
  • Make sure you know “Why” you want your goal – know your goal and understand why you really want this – so that you start believing in your own destiny
  • Understand what you want to do to reach your goal – you can create actionable affirmations that are connected to your goal. In order to reach your goal, you need to create an action plan with things that needs to be done. Just reading out loud your affirmations with no actions from your side (and hoping for the best) will NEVER work. You need to take actions yourself!
  • Start writing down your personal affirmation based on your goal, your why and your actions. Don’t worry if you can’t think of the right ones from the beginning, please know that affirmations are not fixed and that you can change and update them to make them better and more powerful for yourself.
  • When you have your first affirmation you need to start building the habit to read them out loud (so that if someone is next to you, he or she can hear you) every day! I do this each morning during my miracle morning habit.

One thing you can also do is to write down your affirmation on you “reminder cards” like I wrote in one of my previous post

To end this post, I will share with you my personal daily affirmations that supports me during my day, use them as inspiration but make sure you create your own personal affirmations:

  • I feel strong, powerful & happy and all things will be fine because I never give up
  • Hocus Pocus keep the fucking focus (when I’m overwhelmed and need focus to control my tasks and thoughts)
  • I’m happy and relax
  • Everything will be fine
  • I take good care of myself
  • I consistently think healthy and positive thoughts
  • From today everything is going better
  • I am valuable
  • Whatever happens: I can handle anything

Have fun in defining your own affirmations and make them feel powerful for yourself!

Photo by Patrick Tomasso on Unsplash

2 February 2021 0 comment
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Focus on your strengths not your weaknesses

by Rockstar 26 January 2021

“Success is achieved by developing our strengths, not by eliminating our weaknesses.”- Marilyn vos Savant

I’m born and raised in The Netherlands and it is not very common in our culture to speak about the great things your have achieved in your life. As soon as you are proud of an achievement, people think you are arrogant hence we have a tendency to not speak about our strengths. This is different in the US where it is normal to speak openly about successes and strengths.

When you ask people to name their strengths and weaknesses, they always start with naming their weaknesses, try it with your fiends and you will see that most of them can easily name some of their weaknesses and feel uncomfortable to speak about their strengths.

It’s the same in businesses where most of the focus is on fixing weaknesses. Strategy workshops always start with the so-called SWOT analysis and you will see that most of the time and actions are based on fixing the weaknesses. What companies should do is to focus more efforts on the strengths of the company; it’s products, services and employees. So focus more on the ‘S’ in the SWOT analysis. How can they do more of their strengths and how can they become better and transform from a good into a great company.

If you focus on the weaknesses; it’s like training Messi to become the best goalkeeper, that won’t work. All he does is to be an even better striker for Barcelona and score more goals. Focus on the strengths and you will see more success!

It should be common sense that for a positive life style you should focus on your strengths instead of your weakness but unfortunately the vast majority of us are trying to solve their weaknesses. Successful companies like Tesla, Google, Spotify and Facebook focus their vast majority of their time on their strengths and get even better at it.

For a lot of people it will feels uncomfortable start focusing more on their strengths but I would like to challenge you in starting to write down your strengths on a piece of paper or in your digital note taker like Evernote. You can do this in different ways;

  • Take a piece of paper and write down all your strengths in the next 15 min. Don’t think too much about it, just write down everything that you can think of
  • Incubate it into your daily routine / habit like describe in one of my previous blog posts. Everyday you need to write down at least one strength you have. Do this exercise for the next 60 days.

It doesn’t matter what kind of strength it is and how “big” it is. A couple of examples:

  • I’m a very good listener
  • I’m always supportive to my kids while doing their homework
  • I make the best pasta you have ever tasted
  • I’m the best guitar player in my hometown
  • I’m always friendly when stranger ask me a question
  • I have set up a successful business

Again it is not how “big” your strengths are it is about the acknowledgement and realization that you have strengths and trust me everybody have strengths, a lot!

Whatever your decide on how to document your strengths, make sure they are easy to find and they are all in one place because her comes the trick….every time you think about a ‘weakness’ or when somebody reminds you of one of your ‘weaknesses’ grab your list and ad random pick three strengths and read them out loud so that if somebody was standing next to you he or she could hear you speak. After a while you will realize that the three strengths will overrule your “weakness”.

After a couple of weeks when you have trained your mind you will see that you will start thinking more about your strengths and become more positive in your self believe hence your will do more of what you are good at.

Focusing on your strengths is somethings that is coming from the positive psychology and mainly from one of my biggest inspirators – Martin Seligman. In his book “Authentic Happiness” he is talking about Character Strengths and Virtues. There are 6 classes of virtues that are made up of 24-character strengths.

The six virtues are:

  1. Wisdom
  2. Courage
  3. Humanity
  4. Justice
  5. Temperance
  6. Transcendence

Each virtue contains of character strengths

1. Wisdom

Creativity

  • Clever
  • Original & Adaptive
  • Problem Solver

Curiosity

  • Interested
  • Explores new things
  • Open to new ideas

Judgment

  • Critical thinker
  • Thinks things thorough
  • Open-minded

Love of learning

  • Masters new skills & topics
  • Systematically adds to knowledge

Perspective

  • Wise
  • Provides wise counsel
  • Takes the big picture view

2. Courage

Bravery

  • Shows valor
  • Doesn’t shrink from fear
  • Speaks up for what is right

Perseverance

  • Persistent
  • Industrious
  • Finishes what one start

Honesty

  • Authentic
  • Trustworthy
  • Sincere

Zest

  • Enthusiastic
  • Energetic
  • Doesn’t do things half-heartedly

3. Humanity

Love

  • Warm and genuine
  • Values close relationships

Kindness

  • Generous
  • Nurturing
  • Caring
  • Compassionate • Altruistic

Social Intelligence

  • Aware of the motives and feelings of self/others
  • Knows what makes others tick

4. Justice

Teamwork

  • Team player
  • Socially responsible
  • Loyal

Fairness

  • Just
  • Doesn’t let feelings bias decisions about others

Leadership

  • Organizes group activities
  • Encourages a group to get things done

5. Temperance

Forgiveness

  • Merciful
  • Accepts others’ shortcomings
  • Gives people a second chance

Humility

  • Modest
  • Lets one’s accomplishments speak for themselves

Prudence

  • Careful
  • Cautious
  • Doesn’t take undue risks

Self-regulation

  • Self-controlled
  • Disciplined
  • Manages impulses and emotions

6. Transcendence

Appreciation of beauty & Excellence

  • Feels awe and wonder in beauty
  • Inspired by goodness of others

Gratitude

  • Thankful for the good
  • Expresses thanks
  • Feels blessed

Hope

  • Optimistic
  • Future-minded
  • Future Orientated

Humor

  • Playful
  • Brings smiles to others
  • Lighthearted

Spirituality

  • Searches for meaning
  • Feels a sense of purpose
  • Senses a relationship with the sacred

More information about each character strengths can be found here

In order to find your own personal character strengths, you can do an online test and answer 240 questions – > https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/questionnaires/survey-character-strengths

Based on this test you will find your 5 so called signature strengths. I can share my 5 signature strengths based on the test I did:

  1. Perseverance
  2. Fairness
  3. Leadership
  4. Gratitude
  5. Humor

My goal is to use these 5 signature strengths in my everyday life. Both in my working and private life and see if I can strengthen these character strengths even more.

During the next couple of days, I would like to challenge you to focus more on your strengths and see how you can do more of those and become even better in your strengths. This is much easier than to eliminate a weakness and to become better in your strengths will also give you more joy and happiness in your everyday life. It will also increase your motivation curve to focus on the strength and the positive things and that will give your more energy!

Start focusing on your strengths!

Please find some good video’s on YouTube about discovering your signature strengths

Photo by Esteban Lopez on Unsplash

26 January 2021 0 comment
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